Specifically, I am unhappy with my personal (relationship) life, so I need to resolve to take steps to “fix” that. I understand that it’s not a problem to solve per se, but rather that I need to take positive steps toward improving my confidence, get myself busy so I stop overanalyzing everything, and get myself feeling better physically and socially. All of these things I will resolve to do in the coming days, but first and foremost I think it’s worth talking about some direct action I can take to meet/get to know more women.
I use OkCupid (please don’t stalk me k thx), having been a member since like… 2003? It’s quite a good dating website overall, but I feel like I’m spinning my wheels (and also I am unsure whether I’ll be able to find someone right for me via this method, since I have not done so in our time together). I’ve also, at the suggestion of friends, tried other sites / personals listings. Bill made a great suggestion to me tonight which was, just try to talk to more people. So in resolution form, it’s:
#1. I resolve to message one lady I am romantically interested each day for 30 days.
I don’t think I’ll start this right away (either right right now, or right after the New Year starts) because like I said, there are a lot of other personal improvement steps I feel I’ve been lazy progressing on that I can do first to build confidence, but I think this is a great step for me to get myself in the habit of starting conversations that might lead to something rather than sitting around (which will lead nowhere).